Awesome message I wanna share!

So in a prayer group I had last week, My good friend Jamin called me out on prayer. Now i confess Im not good at praying/ hate doing it( by that I mean I don't like speaking infront of others becuase of the fear of sounding stupid.) I'm perfectly fine with saying a prayer to myself though.
Prayer is one of the most important and most powerful spiritual tools in the Christian life. Yet if you ask most Christians about their prayer lives, you will find that most do not regularly pray and most can’t give a clear definition how to pray effectively. What does it take to develop an active prayer life?
We have all heard people say things like, "I have tried everything, now all I can do is pray". I recently said to someone  a similar situation and I had not prayed because I felt I could handle the situation but now it has grown beyond my control.
Today I was doing a bible study with a couple of friends when I was reading out loud and came across this:

"I only pray to God about big problems and don’t bother God with the little things".  "To God, every problem is little". How true that is. We struggle needlessly simply because we do not ask. This is one of the craziest things ive ever come across. I literally was talking to someone about pray and how I didn't think it works etc...than all of I come across this. Ironic i think not! I'm pretty sure this might be the first time I've actually heard something from Jesus. My mind is blown away right now!

Godly Fathers

I'm going to let you guys inside a little of my personal life. I'm seeing someone, and he has a daughter. Don't judge (If you want to know more just ask).I know I know most of you are probably freaking about what I just said, well there's a reason why I told you this. There is one thing I don't like about him, it's the way he fathers his own child. Now I know I don't know anything about being a parent, but I do know/ have been told how a father should act.
Godly Fathers are Godly Men:
It's not fair to say to a child," Do as I say, not as I do" than just bail out. Children must be able to see example of Christ in their fathers.Paul says to his spiritual children in 1 Corinthians 11:1, "Be imitators of me, just as I also am of Christ." Until men by faith follow in the example of Christ themselves, they cannot be godly examples for their own children

Godly fathers love their children unconditionally:
 I think of the father of the prodigal son who stood waiting and watching for his son to return to him (Luke 15:20). When he finally did return, the father didn’t judge the son or force him to earn back his favor, love, and approval. He simply embraced him and threw a celebratory party for his son (Luke 15:21-24). He could do this because his love for his son wasn’t based upon what his son could do for him but simply and strictly upon the fact that he was his son.

Godly fathers train their children how to love and honor God:
The willingness and ability to train in righteousness is the call of every godly father. Kids aren’t stupid. In fact, they are a lot smarter than most parents give them credit for. They can tell when religious rituals are empty or hypocritical, and even though the child might come to know the Bible inside and out, he or she will likely develop a hatred or bitterness towards Christianity if the only Christianity the child knows is vain and ugly.Discipline reinforces these realities through imposing consequences. But it must be evident to the children when they are being disciplined that the father’s love for them has not changed. Discipline is never aligned with wrath because it is kindness that leads to repentance (Romans 2:4). Discipline is simply another expression of love (Deuteronomy 8:1-6, Hebrews 12:6).
Godly fathers seeks to give his children good gifts such that his children are blessed through him:
Of course, love and discipline and the training of the Lord in righteousness are blessings of eternal value, but godly fathers go beyond just spiritual gifts to seeking to give good gifts of all kinds. Spoiling is not the purpose of giving good and perfect gifts. Rather, the purpose of such provisions and blessings is the security that God cares about us perfectly and intimately. Knowing that He knows what we need and that He cares about what we want and hope for is so important in our relationship with Him. In the same way, earthly fathers should seek to be in tune with what their children hope for, desire, and need such that they can wisely meet and address those needs and wants. A father’s wisdom is a blessing and security to his children as they can trust what he does for them and gives to them.

Female Porn

I saw "The Vow" last night. I'm not much for a sappy love story, but for some reason I wanted to see it. I don't know why but I expect more than what I actually got. Movies like this are female  porn...Yes you heard me I said female porn. Unlike guys female porn isn't sexual, its romantic. Movies like this give us ladies a warped view of men. In a two-hour sitting this perfect man saves the world, romances the girl, and takes her on the ride of a life time. You watch this and you fantasize about your hero. You become aroused by what you see and hear on the screen. You desire it. You dream about it.

This stuff turns you on so much because it takes advantage of that God-given desire you have. Your inborn desire to be rescued and revealed as beautiful. For two hours you soar with the feelings of being saved by your knight and shining armor. And suddenly you long for the man on the screen.

Then you are released into the world of real man with real flaws who cannot satisfy the desire in you that was ignited by female porn. If you have a man, consciously or subconsciously, you are doing the same thing men do to women by dreaming of that supermodel-you are imposing and impossible set of demands on your guy. If you don't have a man, you feel depressed because you are so alone. The worst thing you can do if you feel horrible about being alone is to go watch a chick flick or read a romance novel.You'll get a man in good time, and all the daydreaming in the world won't make him come along any faster. It will only make your solitude more miserable.

So be careful, ladies. Female porn is every bit destructive as male porn. Protect your mind. Protect your heart. Refocus your energy and your mind. Where you put your thoughts, your heart's gonna follow.

Where are all the real men?

With Valentines Day coming up I thought I would write something about love.

Society at large can't make up its mind about men. How can a man know he is one when his highest aim is minding his manners? Men: did you ever dream of becoming a nice guy? Ladies: was the prince of your dreams dashing or merely nice? It's about guys standing up and taking on the role as men. Fierce, powerful, protective, passionate men. Girls are messing things up because gender-confused guys have forced girls into becoming the men. Guys have let the girls take control while they just sit back. That's not the way it was designed.

Rules that need/should be followed.

Guys purse it:
If you're too sacred to ask her, then you're not man enough to go out with her. But listen, being scared is not a bad thing. I'm guessing all men get scared when it comes to asking a girl out. Don't expect her to call you. Don't expect her to ask you out. Do something. Be the man. Take a chance. Ask. Hey, no chase, no challenge. No challenge no reason to stay with her.
Girls purse it:
So, girls, sit back and let guys come after you. A guy needs to pursue. Let him be the aggressor and make him want to fight to know the deepest you.

Guys plan it:
Well when you go on a date, have a plan.  It doesn't have to be minute-by-minute schedule of events, but you need a general idea of what's going to happen. Do some advance work too. If something is important to you, you will invest a lot of time in it. If you ask a girl out, you'd better plan the date.
Girls plan it:
Give him suggestions for what you would like. But let him take the ball and do what it takes to make it happen. Don't accept excuses if he never plans anything either. If he isn't willing to plan something for you, he isn't really interested in you.

Guys cover it:
When you ask out a girl, be ready to pay. Plan something that doesn't cost big bank. You gotta pay to play. If she's worth asking out, she's worth doing something that you pay for.
Girls cover it:
The guy has to step it up and reach in his pocket. Girls your job is to suggest new, fun, free or low rent things you can do together, and his job to plan the details. Remember, it's not the cash value but spending the time together that's important.

Guys back off:
give up the pursuit of physical favor and back off. I'm talking about any physical gesture, any pay-off. Guys, it is not your right to take it. Your job as a real man is to guard her body. That means even from yourself. If you play to win, you gotta play the whole game. What she wants is a relationship that will last. Be a man. Take control.
Girls pay off:
Giving you affection to a guy right away doesn't make you more valuable. You just give him a prize without making him fight for it. if you want a guy to know how valuable you are, you have to act like you are valuable.

You have to pursue, plan, and pay in order to get the prize.