What's the real focus here?

I don't know if you guys can read this but these two "relationship triangles" are two of my close friends I guess this is what they seek in a relationship. The names are crossed out to protect the innocent. The top triangle says trust, sex, respect, friendship. The bottom triangle says trust, friendship, respect, sex. After reading this I'm shocked, embarrassed, but kinda ok with it. I know you guys are probably like what the heck your ok with what they say in triangle? Ya actually I am but I would change just a little in the order mine would be friendship, respect, trust, sex. Now I have noticed that too many girls these days settle for less...even including me. Now we all know the saying shivery is dead. Now I talked with someone recently about this. Now i said girls were at fault because of this but he said its guys fault too. It's actually nice that we both agree that were both at fault for this (thanks ginger). Too many guys don't even show shivery and too many girls deny the guys the right to show shivery. Well I'm not gonna talk to much about this because well first of all theres not much to say about this topic. This is well gonna be a random blog about random things that have been on my mind recently. I hang out with this group of people everyday in study hall. I love this people so much there so much fun to hang out with and they get me really thinking. Now only about 2 of the 9 people are what i would define as a christian. Now the guys always give me crap about being "innocent" now what really is innocence? A guy once told me that no one is innocent. After pondering this for a wail i have come to the term that he's right. Well in the terms of being a christian yes we are not innocent, but in high school term we are ( does that make since?) After talking to these people in the group and figuring about what they really meant by being innocent i guess well i would have to call myself innocent. Ok lets be real i have done somethings on this "list" of things that don't make you innocent. I'm human don't judge me. I'm really struggling with trying to prove these guys that I'm not "innocent". I just don't know what to do...so if you guys have any words of wisdom please share especially if you have been in the same position as me...thanks!

Ginger

So as I was thinking about what to write today I put my hair up in a ponytail. Its probably pointless for me to tell you this but as I was doing this it reminded me of the book/movie of unserious of unfortunate events. It reminded me of Violet the older sister in the book of when ever she was getting a genious idea she would put her hair up with a ribbon. Anyway speaking of the book/movie it just reminded me of how many situations they overcome. I think the biggest hurdle they had to overcome was the death of their parents. Im going to relate this hurdle they went through with one of my friends in my life that has made a big impact of my life. This friends is one of the strongest girls I know. She has had to deal with alot of deaths in her life; a few people that she was closes too left her life sooner than she wanted them too. Now im not saying she is the strongest person i know becuase she can hide her real feelings from everyone. Its becuase she can openly speak to me about how she feels about the deaths of her loved ones that past. I know if she is reading this she would say no she is not as strong as everyone thinks she is. You need to know thats perfectly OK!!! its ok to let your guard down. I know the question thats going through my head is God why in the word would you let so much death happen into someone's life? Why would you put this on someone who is so astonishing? Why would you not let this happen to someone like me?
Philippians 4:7: And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Even though you many not have the answers why, you can still experience God's peace.
Sometimes we need to talk through our pain
Jesus is truly the only one who knows how you feel.
Romans 8:18 and James 1:2-4
He uses unexplainable situations to make us more like Jesus. God never stops caring for us. Its impossible for him to stop caring.  Look to him for new strength. He doesnt wants to see us go through pain; he wants to take all the pain away.
Something for you ginger: dont be afraid to shed a tears, and be honest about your emotions with God and others Matthew 5:4. Turn to God. He's strong enough to handle your questions, your grief, your anger, Ignoring him won't help, but unloading your burdens on him will. You are loved! Remember that Jesus was overcome with sorrow and tears before he died. He understands your pain and longs to comfort you Psalm 62:5-8 Romans 8:38-39. You are his duaghter and he loves you so much he made you unique and special there is no other ginger like you in the world so don't conform into this world. There is so much I would love to talk to you about!! Remember I love you and always will and you can always talk to me about anything even if its just to hang out and not even say anything! You truly are and inspiration to me and I hope some day I can be like you a little.